COUPLES' CORNER

COUPLES' CORNER

These days, a lot of women are very much eager to walk out of their marriage, most of them are still in their marriage now cos of the children, some have already given up on the marriage waiting for the right time to spark, some are just tolerating the man hoping for a change, some are still in the marriage cos of families, in laws, friends, colleagues and church members influence and encouragement, while some are already filling for divorce..

The Problem most times why marriage fails sometimes comes from the men. When a man is married to a beautiful lady, he tends to control and rule over her life, and then forget that, it does not take a whole lot to keep a woman, especially when you are blessed with a beautiful wife.

Every woman wants to be loved by her man, even if she doesn’t love you that much but hence you have proven to her that you love her so much and you can do anything to always make her happy, I bet you she will never leave you.

Men don’t know that the secret to a woman’s heart is nothing but love and care, because the true life and nature of a woman is hidden in her love life...  So many men most times think that loving your wife so much and taking good special care of her, is being foolish. There are differences between loving your wife and being a fool. A man becomes a fool when he is not doing what he should always do as a husband by loving his wife always, taking good care of her and the family and as well making her happy always..

You sit down in front of the TV with your phone and watch your wife work until she’s about to pass out and just before she sleeps, you still want sex. Seriously, are you kidding me. Don’t you see you are wicked?

As a man, who told you that it is wrong to wash dishes? Who told you it is wrong to bath the kids and dress them for school when they are up to?  Who told you that it is wrong to dress a bed? Who told you it is wrong to prepare breakfast or dinner?  And there’s this twisted view of marriage that has led to an increase in domestic violence where they’ll see a man cooking and they be like “Guy, you need to get married so you can stop cooking”. Let me tell you, don’t marry a woman to clean or cook for you but marry to assist, love, cherish and enjoy each other.

If you are getting married because you feel you need someone to cook and do all house work for you, then get a housemaid.

#Lets_assist_our_women…

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#Caringhusband

#Caringdad

#Husbandmaterial

Credit: Couples' Diary 

#BringBackOurValues

DOES GOD CARE IF I DON'T GO TO CHURCH

DOES GOD CARE IF I DON'T GO TO CHURCH

(Is it acceptable to be a Christian and not go to church? Find out here.)

There are many Christians who love going to church but there are also many Christians who don’t. It has become increasingly popular for Christians to stay at home and find alternative methods to practice their faith including prayer, meditation and personal Bible study. Many people who don’t attend church regularly or at all wonder what the point of going to church is if they have a personal relationship with God. While not attending church will not send you to hell or make God love you any less, it is not what God hoped for His people and can hinder spiritual growth.

First, to understand why God cares if we go to church, it’s important to understand the definition of church.

Church is commonly understood to be a building used for public Christian worship but the biblical definition characterizes the church as people. We see the word church used in the Bible multiple ways.

First, it is described as the body of Christ. The church is often defined as a local assembly or group of believers. Paul, who was called to be an apostle of Jesus Christ by the will of God, says in his greeting “To the church of God in Corinth, to those sanctified in Christ Jesus and called to be His holy people, together with all those everywhere who call on the name of our Lord Jesus Christ – their Lord and ours: Grace and peace to you from God our Father and the Lord Jesus Christ” (1 Corinthians 1:2). This is just one example of the church being defined as company or assembly.

Next, the church is defined as the body of living, individual believers. When Paul preaches the Gospel after receiving it by revelation from Jesus Christ, he says, “For you have heard of my previous way of life in Judaism, how intensely I persecuted the church of God and tried to destroy it” (Galatians 1:13). Paul also said “For I am the least of the apostles and do not even deserve to be called an apostle, because I persecuted the church of God” (1 Corinthians 15:9). Both of these verses signal that the church is a body of living people.

Finally, it is defined as the universal group of all people who have trusted Christ through the ages. When Peter makes his confession of Christ, Jesus replies, “And I tell you that you are Peter, and on this rock I will build my church, and all the powers of hell will not conquer it” (Matthew 16:18). From these examples, we see that church is not something we do individually. It is something we do collectively. A very important aspect of Christian life is not just what you do by yourself but also what you do together with other people. Biblically, the church is considered to be the “family of God”. We understand family to be a group that is mutually dependent on each other. The same goes for the church. If we don’t attend church, we are negating what God intends for His people: community.

One reason we know that God valued church is because church it is what Jesus did. The Bible tells us, “[Jesus] went to Nazareth, where He had been brought up, and on the Sabbath day he went into the synagogue, as was His custom” (Luke 4:16). This was in line with the obeying of the Ten Commandments, the forth being, “Remember the Sabbath day, to keep it holy”. As followers of Christ, we are called to do what Jesus has done. Just as Jesus would go to church, we as followers should do the same. We are called by God to do so.

God wants us to go to church is because it’s a good habit. The Bible says, “Some people have gotten out of the habit of meeting for worship. But we must not do that. We should keep on encouraging each other, especially since you know that the day of the Lord’s coming is getting closer” (Hebrews 10:25). Scripture tells us that it is a good habit to regularly attend church and worship. Church is important for fellowship. It is also a place where we come together to not only hear God’s Word, but also encourage each other. We do this not only through prayer, but also by being involved in classes, groups and serving where we get to know, pray, help and encourage others on an intimate level. Church is a good habit and when it is a regular part of our practice, we benefit and those who we are in community with benefit as well.

When we become Christians, we attend church not simply because it’s a good habit for growing in spiritual maturity. We join a church because it’s what Christ called us to do and who Christ made us to be – members of His body. When we are in are union with believers, we are in union with Christ.

There are many reasons Christians make for not liking or going to church. Some of the reasons are warranted.

>If your local church is not directed in Scripture and not centered in Christ, this is cause for alarm.

>If money consumes the church and is used recklessly or the church teaches false doctrine, this is not in line with the New Testament outlines for the church.

>If you’ve experience any of these things, these are good reasons to leave your church and find another.

>If you are rejecting the church, it’s time to examine where your heart is and why you are closing yourself off.

>There are many who reject worship because they are uncomfortable with the style of worship or reject mission because it’s uncomfortable.

However, being a part of a community of believers is what we are called to be as Christians. If you are rejecting parts of the body of Christ, it will hinder your own spiritual growth.

Church is a place where we go to be inspired to model our lives after Jesus’, to live more Godly lives, and to discover our sense of purpose. The church helps us see that we are here to serve and to love. Instead of occasionally going to church or shutting it off all together, make church attendance a priority. It is a part of who we are as believers. Yes, there are a million other things we could be doing on a Sunday but none of these reasons outweigh being in fellowship and mission. This is what God wants for you.

WAYS FOR RAISING WELL-BEHAVED CHILDREN

WAYS FOR RAISING WELL-BEHAVED CHILDREN

Parenting can be tough, and everyone secretly fears they will be bad parents.
When raising a child, you can either overly pamper them and raise ill-behaved and spoiled kids or you can be super strict and make them despise you.
The thin line between those two extremes is good parenting.

Here Are Some Ways On How To Raise Grounded Children:
Say ‘No’ Regularly:
Giving your child whatever they want whenever they want plants in them a feeling of entitlement.
Even if you can immediately afford whatever they want, practice delayed gratification so they can properly appreciate favours and good gestures.

Educate Them On Family History And Culture:
Everyone needs a sense of identity.
Teach your children where they come from so they can appreciate their culture.
Tell them of their ancestors that did great things so they can also be proud of their family name.

Teach Them Gratitude:
“Please” and “Thank you” are the basics.
Also teach them eye contact, a proper handshake, and how to show appreciation with a smile for the kind and generous things that are said and given to them.

Teach Them To Give:
As a parent, you must lead by example. Donate clothes and toys to charity.
Do this regularly as a family and sort through, package and deliver the goods together so the kids really see where their things are going.

Don’t Always Save Them:
From a young age, children need to learn that actions have consequences.
Allow them to fall and scrape their knee to avoid rough play.
Tell them of your own experiences and don’t over-protect them from disappointments.

Teach Them The Value Of Money:
Have your children manage their money through saving, teach them how to invest and give to those in need.
Starting this from an early age will set a foundation of responsible wealth management.

THE MEANING OF BEING A MOTHER

THE MEANING OF BEING A MOTHER

The meaning of being a mother is virtually endless. A mother is a protector, disciplinarian and friend. A mother is a selfless, loving human who must sacrifice many of their wants and needs for the wants and needs of their children.

A mother works hard to make sure their child is equipped with the knowledge, skills and abilities to make it as a competent human being. Being a mother is perhaps the hardest, most rewarding job a woman will ever experience.

From the day they are born, a child will test your patience. No matter what they do or say, being a mother means you will love your child unconditionally. Children who receive love and attention from their mother are less likely later on to fall in love with someone who offers love conditionally, whether with behaviour control or abuse. Show your child how much you love them with hugs and kisses. Listen to your child as they recount their day, play games or slip a note in their lunch box letting them know how much you love them.

When a woman becomes pregnant, it is her responsibility to provide a safe and secure environment while her baby grows. This responsibility continues once she becomes a mother, whether it's ensuring her child has a roof over its head to keeping monsters away at night and everything in between. Providing your child with a safe and secure environment protects them from abuse and harm as well as help boost their child's mental and emotional development. Provide a safe, healthy environment for children by reducing risks and stress as well as keeping an eye out on children.

Being a mother means being there to teach your child important rules and roles of life, from being an empathetic human being to learning how to be responsible of one's actions. As your child grows up, they are going to face an onslaught of differing thoughts, opinions and values from their friends, the movies, internet, television and magazines. A mother will help guide their child to figure out their goals and values in life as well as teach them the importance of an education, manners and more. A mother will also discipline their child, a skill that will benefit children throughout their life as well as at school, work and life at home.

DIFFERENCE BETWEEN A WOMAN TO FOOL AROUND WITH AND A WOMAN TO MARRY

DIFFERENCE BETWEEN A WOMAN TO FOOL AROUND WITH AND A WOMAN TO MARRY

1. A woman to fool around with will never be introduced to his parents. A woman to marry will proudly be taken to meet his parents.

2. A woman to fool around with is ultimately about lust and sex. A woman to marry is ultimately about true friendship and love.

3. A woman to fool around with will be thought of when need arises, the now desires, looked for when convenient. A woman to marry will be thought of constantly through out the day, he thinks of her not just in his today but his future too.

4. A woman to fool around with is bought for gifts to lure her and trap her. A woman to marry will be bought for gifts to tell her how special she is.

5. A woman to fool around with will have no official position given by him to make her secure so he cannot be accountable. A woman to marry will be proposed to, not just to be his woman but his fiance, his wife, he will make himself responsible for her heart.

6. A woman to fool around with is kept a secret. A woman to marry is loved in public.

7. A woman to fool around with is not prayed for because he is using her. A woman to marry is prayed for because he wants God to use him to bless her.

8. A woman to fool around with has her phone contact saved on his phone by a funny name or an undercover name. A woman to marry has her phone contact saved on his phone by her real name or an affectionate title like "My love".

9. A woman to fool around with gets pregnant and the first thing he thinks is running away, denying the child or regretting why he slept with her. A woman to marry gets pregnant and he is over joyed, he wants a family with her.

10. A woman to fool around with begs him to notice her or make time for her. A woman to marry is pursued; he is the one asking her to make time for him.

11. A woman to fool around with makes him jealous when he thinks another man is taking her attention. A woman to marry makes him scared of the thought he might fail in loving her and another man can love her better.

12. A woman to fool around with is told only the good things, even the sweet lies to keep her hooked. A woman to marry is told the good and the bad, no lies, he wants her to know him for who he really is, he is vulnerable to her, love is not based on pretence.

13. A woman to fool around with adds no growth, she makes him a lesser man as she provides herself for him to waste time. A woman to marry makes him a better man, she challenges him and pushes him to be greater, she inspires the best in him.

14. A woman to fool around with is temporary, she is easily left behind even without an explanation. A woman to marry is permanent, she is fought for, even if they break up, she is given an explanation why.

15. A woman to fool around with is easily forgotten because she was just a passing fad. A woman to marry will be remembered by him as the woman he hoped to marry.

16. A woman to fool around with is ridiculed, he sexes her and goes to brag to his friends. A woman to marry is covered from shame, held in high esteem and his sexual experiences with her are too sacred and special to feed to the itching ears of dogs (abstain from premarital sex).

17. A woman to fool around with is left hanging and single wondering what's wrong with her. A woman to marry eventually gets married for she has been a wife in waiting.

18. A woman to fool around with makes an ideal candidate for a side chick in an affair, a temporary fix. A woman to marry makes an ideal candidate for a wife, she is a keeper.

A woman to fool around with can easily transform herself into a woman to marry, and a woman to marry can easily degrade herself to become a woman to fool around with; it all depends on how she carries herself, men relate with women based on how they present and handle themselves.

Lady, to attract Mr Right you need to project what is right. Show yourself as a gem and a man who knows your clear worth will value you and hoist his flag on your heart to own it. Show yourself as a sex object, refuse to grow, have an unpleasant attitude, and make sexiness to be the only thing you can contribute to a man, and any man will scheme to sex you and abandon you, no flag hoisted because men keep the woman who is a keeper! ont waste this 2019.

Assess yourself / relationship. Are you a woman to fool around with or a woman to marry? You can search your mind and sincerely answer.

SIMPLE WAYS TO BE HAPPY

SIMPLE WAYS TO BE HAPPY

Make a point of smiling even when you are going through various issues.

Some people find it hard to bear a smile on their faces but what they do not understand is that happiness comes from within and it is a result of self-love.

Here Are Some Few Ways On How To Stay Happy Always:

1. Accept The Things You Can't Change:

There are some things in life that you can't change no matter how hard you try. Accepting that you have no control over some things will enable you to enjoy life as you will be less frustrated. Focus your energy on the things you have control over and those that make you happy.

2. Let Go Of The People Who Are Holding You Down:

Some people in your life were meant to be a source of sorrow. Let go of anything or people who don't add any value to your life.

Surround yourself with people who have positive energy and those who motivate you and challenge you to pursue your dreams.

3. Smile At A Stranger This Will Make Both Of You Smile:

Smiling at a stranger can make you forget how sad you were. You never know how many people need a smile just to feel like someone cares for them.

Make a point of smiling even when you are going through various issues.

Being happy helps you move ahead and have the energy to face a new day.