SOME TYPES OF PEOPLE THAT YOU NEED TO DISTANCE YOURSELF FROM

SOME TYPES OF PEOPLE THAT YOU NEED TO DISTANCE YOURSELF FROM

If you asked me a few years ago if I knew how to set boundaries for myself, I would  have replied, ‘Boundaries? What boundaries?’

TRUTHFULLY, I WASN’T THE GREATEST AT SETTING BOUNDARIES BUT NOW I FIND THEM NECESSARY. WHAT IS ALSO NECESSARY IS DISTANCING YOURSELF FROM TOXIC PEOPLE.

This Is The Type Of People That We Should Distance Ourselves From:

1. People Who Lie To You:

Like we were told when we were young kids, ‘A liar is a thief and a thief is a liar’. This may sound a bit exaggerated, however, you can’t trust people who lie to you.

To avoid conflict and issues in your life, distance yourself from people who lie to you because you won’t be able to trust them. And, what good is a relationship that doesn’t have trust?

2. People Who Disrespect You:

Like my mother always used to tell me, ‘Every doormat says welcome’. That saying has stayed with me everyday of my life. When we allow people to disrespect us, we are responsible too.

To protect yourself from disrespectful behaviour, distance yourself from disrespectful people because only you can stand up for yourself.

3. People Who Use You:

We all have people in our lives who like to push our buttons, harass us for money or feel entitled to our time. Well, it’s time for you to distance yourself from them.

It is not always your problem when people find themselves in a bind. I’m not saying that you shouldn’t help but don’t become someone’s crutch, you deserve better than that.

4. People Who Put You Down:

Unfortunately insecure, mean and unfriendly people exist. But that doesn’t mean that you have to be friends with them. You deserve to be surrounded by people who support, appreciate and acknowledge you; not people who put you down.

If you hang around people who call you names, disrespect you or treat you badly, you will soon do the same to yourself.

SOME WAYS YOUR THOUGHTS SABOTAGE YOU WHEN YOU’RE TRYING TO LOSE WEIGHT

SOME WAYS YOUR THOUGHTS SABOTAGE YOU WHEN YOU’RE TRYING TO LOSE WEIGHT

If you’ve made a commitment to lose weight—for real, finally this time!—you may be surprised to learn that there is SO much more to losing weight beyond just the food you put in your mouth.

Surprised?

In fact, one area that is not often discussed, but that can make a HUGE, life-changing impact to how successful you are in losing your desired weight, is your mindset.

Your thoughts are an incredibly powerful tool that can either help you lose the weight OR keep it on due to fear, stress and other negative emotions.

In my holistic nutrition practice, many women come to me feeling defeated and frustrated, often with a lifetime of weight loss attempts (and failures) under their belts. Believe me, they are not beginners when it comes to trying to lose their excess weight.

They often feel like they’ve tried everything under the sun.

Nothing works.

I don’t have any self-control.

I can’t do it.

Every minute of every day, they’re spending all their time thinking about food and feeling weak, hopeless and out of control.

Sound familiar?

The problem is that when you’re in that state, and you’re only focused on the challenges and negative parts associated with your goal, it becomes impossible to lose a pound, or more.

So, why is that?

The Way our Brains Are Wired:

Well, we are wired to focus on the negative! That’s for sure. Our brains are wired to keep us out of harm's way. Since the dawn of human history, our very survival depended on our ability to avoid danger. Biologically, our brains are built to notice danger and then respond accordingly to it.

This may have been needed when humans were largely hunter-gatherers, but today, we don’t have to face most of the true survival dangers that we once had to. Unfortunately, our brains haven’t evolved or adapted as fast as the pace of modern life has and we are still hardwired to respond to stress in a negative and often overreactive way. We head down the well-worn path of least resistance, which, for most of us, is a negative one.

When you are consistently “stressing” about, and focusing on your weight loss failures, how will you ever succeed at your goal?

And did you know that it is super common for women to subconsciously sabotage their weight loss efforts the closer they get to reaching their goals? For many women, it’s because we’ve never actually pictured ourselves without the extra weight.

We can’t identify with ourselves as people without our struggle of trying to lose the weight. We can’t identify with the woman who loves her body, and who feels confident, gorgeous and yes, even sexy! We can’t identify with the woman who has boundless energy and who doesn’t have anything holding her back anymore. Our brains perceive this stress as a threat and we then often subconsciously sabotage our own efforts in order to stay comfortable and SAFE.

The first step to overcoming this is to picture yourself after having achieved your goal:

1. Let Your Imagination Work Wonders:

So, first: imagine every aspect of what it feels like to be at your goal weight.

What are you wearing?

How do you feel?

Do you feel more confident, more balanced or more in control?

What are your relationships with your kids and husband like?

How do you feel when you go shopping for a bathing suit?

What is your life like overall?

Write the answers to these questions down as if you are already living this life. Feel the results deep down inside. And yes, you better get excited about them!

Throughout your weight loss journey, write about these future results, and as often as possible. Whenever you feel down or experience a setback (and you almost certainly will), read over what you wrote and remind yourself exactly why you are doing what you are doing.

2. Address Your Fears & Limiting Beliefs About Weight Loss:

Second, recognize the fears and limiting beliefs you have around weight loss.

A few examples of limiting beliefs might be:

“I have to watch every single thing I eat, or count every calorie, or I’ll never lose weight.”

“I have to work out A LOT to lose any weight.”

“My whole family is, and has always been, overweight so it’s in my genes.”

“I can never eat that food. It’s way too fattening.”

Write ALL these thoughts down. Then for each one, ask yourself… is this really true?

For example, if you find yourself constantly saying “It’s too hard to lose weight”, ask yourself, honestly: Is this true? You’ll probably realize that it’s not, because many people, everywhere and anywhere, do it all the time!

Get on the web and search for something like “weight loss transformations”. Then look at all the people who did it! There are people out there who have successfully lost 400-500 pounds and kept it off! The truth is, limiting beliefs and fears only keep you from making better choices, finding the resources or help you need to achieve your goal, or muster up last bit of courage to finally succeed.

So, write them all down and then find the evidence to prove yourself wrong.

3. Focus on the Positive:

Finally, focus on the positive.

Know that our brains can be rewired.

Even though some of us are prone to making negative comments and assumptions, it is entirely possible to develop the habit of being, and staying, positive. The vibrational energy that you are putting out to the universe will help you with your weight loss efforts.

A great example of this is when you started changing your eating habits and incorporating healthier foods. Many people will focus on all of the stuff they can’t eat and go into a state of suffering and/or starvation. Unfortunately, this forces them to rely on willpower alone, which always runs out (eventually!), and which will always lead them back to their old, unsupportive habits.

Instead, try a new approach by focusing on all of the positive aspects of the food. Say to yourself, “Look at all of these new foods and flavours I get to experiment with!”

You can also focus on how good it feels when you are eating well. Are your clothes fitting better? Are you sleeping better? Do you have more energy? Is your sex drive ramping up?

Take Action

Your task can be

Choose one of these simple exercises and include it in your daily routine. You’ll be amazed at the results and how these can have a cascading effect on your weight, your work and your home life—really, your whole life!

Try it and please feel free to share your discoveries with me in the comments below.

BITTER LEAF PART TWO

BITTER LEAF PART TWO

>Side effects of bitter leaf and its properties.
Bitter leaf is a long-term grass, which can reach the height of 30 centimeters. It differs in a creeping stalk, has the uniform trimmed surface, which can take roots in knots. Bitter leaf flowers medicinal gather in a group with a large number of blossoming, which grow at the top of leaves.

Bitter Leaf Useful Properties:
Healers use an elevated part of a plant. The stalk, flowers, and leaves are rich in ascorbic acid and Carotene. By means of the plant, it is possible to destroy microbes. It is one of the best disinfectants. Also, it is proved scientifically that bitter leaf is one of the best agents, helping at adhesion of wounds.
The plant contains a large number of different trace substances, lemon, apple, milk acids. An elevated part is rich with a fat and essential oil, vitamins, aromatic bonds.
The broth of bitter leaf is recommended to use as an agent of cramps and a severe cough.
By means of a grass, it is possible to cure wounds and a disease of a skin. If ulcers, purulent rashes don't heal a long time, the skin itch disturbs, it is recommended to do lavages or take a bath with this grass. Bitter leaf infusion helps to get rid of a fungus. Also, it is used if legs strongly sweat.
The homeopathy appreciates the bile-expelling action of the bitter leaf. Also, it is recommended to use if the person has bronchial asthma, also at dry coach and problems with the top respiratory tracts.

Bitter leaf is one from the best agents for the treatment of diseases of an intestine, a stomach; it helps at gastritis with low acidity.
For a long time, people use such prescription of broth. It will require two tablespoons of bitter leaf filled with 400 ml of boiled water.
Because of bitter leaf diuretic action, by means of it, people treat urinary diseases. Also, it is recommended to use drugs on the basis of this species of a plant at a sleeplessness, if the person is strongly overexcited and he has a nervous attrition. By means of bitter leaf, it is possible to stop bleeding. It is taken both outwardly, and inside.
The fresh broth of a plant will help to avoid serious consequences after stings of snakes and a toxicant spider. It is the best of all to put bitter leaf grass in the steamed-out look to the struck place.
Home healers use broths and infusions for the treatment of cold, tuberculosis, bronchial asthma, bronchitis. It is also good to use them at hepatic, renal, gastric diseases, problems with a bladder. By means of a grass, it is possible to cure a rheumatic disease, to stop internal bleeding, to improve a condition of the woman during climacteric period, to restore an organism after attrition and to get rid of sleeplessness.
Outwardly, the better leaf is used for the treatment of combustions and wounds.

Bitter Leaf Side Effects:
It is impossible to use this species of a plant when the person has an allergic reaction.
If not to keep a dosage and to self-medicate, there can be such side effects of bitter leaf juice as blood pressure, serious heart troubles, the increase of glucose level in a blood. Therefore, it is important to use bitter leaf only after the advice of the doctor.

Bitter Leaf And Pregnancy:
There are no additional side effects of bitter leaf at pregnancy; therefore, you can use it. Moreover, it helps with problems with conception.

Conclusion:
As you can see, the bitter leaf has a set of useful properties. At the same time, there are very few side effects that make this useful grass available for everyone.

BITTER LEAF PART ONE

BITTER LEAF

>Incredible Health Benefits of Bitter Leaf Water.

>Should you consume bitter leaf juice or add its leaves into your salads and dinners?

>What does bitter leaves water do to the body?

>You should explore the awesome benefits and health effect of this natural product since it can improve your health, make you stronger and happier.

We want to talk about the incredible effect of bitter leaf in the body. You will be surprised to learn some wonderful facts that might change your lifestyle.

Before we list all the most interesting health benefits of bitter leaf, let us look at its botanical name and some other facts.

Botanical Name Of Bitter Leaf:

The term bitter leaf has different names across Africa. Some Nigerian tribes call it 'ewuro', others say it is 'onugbu', and there is also ‘ndole’ version of the name.

Bitter leaf is a common name for numerous species, and each one has its personal botanical name.

Here are some examples of the botanical names of Bitter Leaf:

V. colorata

V. calvoana

Vernonia

V. amygdalina

Bitter leaves can be consumed by people and animals as leaf vegetables.

Some Health Benefits Of Bitter Leaf Water:

There are several ways how you can consume bitter leaf to get the most of its advantages and enhance your health. Some people like to make bitter leaf water and drink it. Others chop fresh leaves into their daily meals.

Effect 1: Cure Against High Blood Pressure:

Many people have this health issue called hypertension or high blood pressure. Bitter leaves can influence your blood pressure and reduce it thanks to the high levels of potassium contained in the leaves.

Leaves, drink bitter leaf water (just boil leaves if you wish to get your own ‘juice’ version) and you will control your blood pressure.

Effect 2: Natural ‘Pill’ To Fall Asleep:

Do you have insomnia? If you cannot fall asleep at night and wish to fix this problem, you can talk to your doctor about consuming bitter leaf water.

The drink made of this incredible plant can help you get some sleep, feel relaxed and rested. Of course, if you only take the bitter leaf extract one time, the miracle might not happen. It can take several days or even weeks to treat your condition and fix insomnia in your particular situation.

Effect 3: No Stomach Pains:

If you suffer from stomach pain and this happens periodically, you can consume bitter leaf water, and the pain will go away.

If you don’t like to drink the juice or water, chew a couple of plant stems and don’t pay attention to the bitter taste. Swallow the juice and wait. The relief should follow soon, and your stomachache will disappear.

Don’t forget to consult your doctor in case you are getting stomach pains. Bitter leaf can make you feel better, but may not cure the cause of your pain.

Effect 4: Improved Fertility:

Women, who wish to create a happy and loving family and are ready to have children but suffer from tissue problems or cannot get pregnant easily, can consume bitter leaves water (after consulting their physician) and improve their fertility.

This plant has amazing detoxification properties and can be used for quicker regeneration.

Effect 5: Healthy Drink For Preventing Cancer:

People, especially men, get a higher risk of developing prostate cancer when they turn 40-50 years old. This dangerous disease causes problematic and aching urination, so it is better to do everything you can to prevent it from happening.

Natural herbs and plants can be a healthy prevention method. Thus, if you start adding bitter leaf into your vegetable salads (this way you can avoid the bitter taste) or drinking a glass of water with bitter leaf juice (it is easy to squeeze some leaves) several times a day, you can improve the urination and clean your body, remove dangerous cells and help them renew faster.

Effect 6: Bitter Leaves Water For Healthier Lungs:

What does bitter leaves water do to the body in terms of inflammation illnesses? It can be a good natural treatment for pneumonia and other lung diseases.

Consuming bitter leaf juice or fresh stems can be useful for your body. It will easily fight bacteria and viruses and help your lungs stay clean and healthy.

Effect 7: Lowering Down Body Heat:

If you have a cold or other illness that causes high body temperature, you can reduce your fever by consuming bitter leaf stems or bitter leaf water. This plant is capable of reducing the body tension which results in lower temperature.

You can boil bitter leaves in water, add some honey into the cup and drink such water a couple of times a day for better effect.

Effect 8: Itchiness Reduction:

People who suffer from itchiness and are tired of fighting with this unpleasant condition can try using herbs such as bitter leaf. There are several ways you can do this.

The first method is as follows. If your itchiness is caused by bacteria, you should rub the leaf into the parts of the skin that itch. Perform this procedure several times a day to reduce your itchiness.

The second method is making special bitter leaf water (combine bitter leaves with ginger roots) and drink it 2-3 times daily.

Effect 9: Natural Cure For Diarrhea:

If you experience digestion problems and suffer from diarrhea, you should talk to your doctor about consuming bitter leaves water.

Effect 10: Better Skin:

Men and Women who love their skin to be healthy and shiny should add bitter leaf into an everyday menu. All the useful elements, minerals and vitamins contained in raw bitter leaves are good for your skin. They can fight with free radicals and help your skin to look young and lower down the ageing effect.

Taking a glass of juice squeezed from the plant at least once a day can be a wonderful solution to many issues with your skin.

Other Effects:

Bitter leaf water and leaves can be your personal method of treating various health conditions, from diabetes to tuberculosis. This plant can improve the functions of your body, improve your skin and hair, make your kidneys healthier, remove stomach pains, get rid of the fever and solve other problems.

All these incredible effects offered by the popular herb are possible thanks to all its nutrients, such as:

>Calcium

>Folic acid

>Potassium

>Vitamins

>Flavonoids

>Alkaloids

>Cooper

>Minerals

You have learned about some of the most curious and awesome health benefits of bitter leaf water. As you can see, bitter leaf can be cooked or consumed raw (leaves, stems), which is even better because this way you will receive more useful elements and amazing nutrients this plant offers. Enjoy health benefits of bitter leaves water, stay healthy and do not forget to consult with your doctor, because all health issues have a prime cause and only specialist will help you to find it out.

THE SEVEN PILLARS FOR CREATING POSITIVE CHANGE

THE SEVEN PILLARS FOR CREATING POSITIVE CHANGE

Whatever positive change you want in your life, whether you're creating something new or changing something existing, whether it's career, relationship, health, money or lifestyle – there are seven (7) pillars for effective change which hold true in all situations.

Often the absence of even one of these pillars is enough to put you on shaky ground.

To ensure you set yourself up for success, write down the particular things you want to change or create in your life, and then check off each one against the list of seven pillars below.

You'll be able to clearly identify where you are on track and what gaps exist. Then you can fill the gaps to ensure you have the optimal outcome you desire!

PILLAR 1 – WHAT:

What exactly are you creating? You have to clearly define it. You need to be able to see it in your mind. You need to be able to sense what it would feel like. You need to be able to name it.

If I ask you exactly what you want, you need to tell me with conviction and clarity the end result you are targeting.

You can't hit a target if you don't know what it is.

Your energy is like a missile that you lock and load onto your desired outcome.

If you don't have a clear outcome in mind, your energy will be scattered and diluted, you'll end up giving your time and attention to things that aren't relevant and you'll wonder why your life isn't the way you want it to be.

WAYS:

It's not difficult to clearly define WHAT you want. It just takes a space of dedicated time, conscious awareness, a question and answer process and the willingness to open your mind and heart to what truly lights your fire! Be willing to be really honest with yourself about what that is.

PILLAR 2 – WHY:

You need to be crystal clear on your real motivator for whatever you're seeking to create.

The process of defining your underlying motivator is incredibly enlightening and liberating.

Many people don't understand the true reason they want what they want.

Many people also don't have a motivator that is compelling enough, and so there's nothing grunty to drive them forward when challenges arise and times are tough – those obstacles end up being bigger than their motivator and so they don't follow through what they needs to be done to make their goals happen, and in some cases they give up entirely.

Your motivator lies at the foundation of all you stand for, at the root of what really moves you, and it will be emotive. It will be values-aligned and passion driven.

WAYS:

To identify and solidify your underlying motivator you simply need to be willing to be completely, brutally honest with yourself about why you do what you do, why you want what you want, and what is actually most important and meaningful to you in life.

PILLAR 3 – MINDSET:

Your mindset is EVERYTHING.

Your beliefs drive your entire life experience – they are how you interpret everything you experience, and they are how you create your life outcomes.

This is because your beliefs give rise to many of your recurring thought patterns, which generate feeling reactions, which heavily influences how you behave and the types of actions you take. And all of that generates results.

When you hold positive beliefs, you have a positive attitude, sense of possibility, courage and confidence – all of which is critical to the success of whatever you're creating or changing.

And when all of that positive energy (coming from the right positive mindset) tips the balance on your old fears, anxiety, doubts (all of which stemmed from stale old limiting beliefs) then you will see seriously awesome results in your life!

WAYS:

Your mindset can be shifted, radically, at any time.

It starts with your conscious awareness of what your existing mindset is, identification of the key limiting beliefs and thought processes that keep you stuck, and seeing fully how those play out in your life currently.

Then you decide upon your preferred mindset that will support and aid the creation of whatever positive change or goals you're seeking to achieve.

Next you implement rituals and tools to consistently apply in daily life to rewire your mindset for success (you can start right now by taking our 30 day challenge using this 400+ Positive Affirmations for Audio)

PILLAR 4 – PLAN:

Your life is not going to just happen to you.

Well, perhaps it is, but not in the way you want most likely!

If you want to create specific change, to realize a goal for yourself, you have to have a specific plan.

The type of plan will be unique to the type of positive change you're creating – be it a business plan, a career plan, a lifestyle plan, a relationship plan, a health plan, a financial plan, or an education plan.

The plan is going to be a written, guiding document which clearly outlines your “what and why” (Pillar 1 and Pillar 2), detailing the type of resources, support (Pillar 5 below) and/or information you need to gather to be able to achieve your goal, and outlining a clear set of actions (Pillar 6 below) that will take you there (or at a minimum the starting steps to get the ball rolling).

Your plan might be phased, focused on what is initially most important to execute, which will often then allow the next phase to become clearer… to unfold naturally as a consequence of your forward momentum.

Your plan can evolve over time, to factor in new insights and new circumstances as you move ahead.

It's not about having a concrete plan and path you must follow. It's about having a guiding document that is clear and realistic, and one that will stretch and drive you beyond your comfort zone.

Whenever you waver on your path, facing difficulties and easily losing sight of your original goal and the reason you wanted it, you can simple come back to your plan. It will never fail to remind you exactly what, why and where to next.

WAYS:

Your plan doesn't need to be complicated. A simple outline is sufficient. You don't have to have a specific structure or template. Don't let yourself be scared off by the word “plan”, thinking there is a special way to create it, or that some expertise is needed to write one.

Start by writing in your journal what is in your heart and your head that you know is important and that needs to be done.

If you want a template to fill in, get online and search “free ____ plan template” (eg “financial plan template” or “savings plan template” or “wellbeing plan template” or “business plan template”) Get proactive!

PILLAR 5 – SUPPORT:

You are not alone. You do not live in this world alone. You do not grow alone. You do not sit silently without interaction with other people. You cannot achieve what you want alone. You were not designed to.

You are an interactive, collaborative, creative being. What you do will help yourself and thus help people around you when you thrive.

What you do will also require the support of other people in some way, perhaps people in your life already, perhaps new people you will meet, perhaps people online, perhaps just information/resources/tools that other people make available to you.

Your support team will include:

those who motivate and love you

those who inspire you

problem solvers

technical experts

butt kickers and hand holders

people who have and are whatever you know you most need to rocket you forward.

You are not meant to be an expert in everything or “perfect” at anything.

Everyone needs other people. You are meant to leverage people who are good at what they know and do, and use that to propel you forward.

WAYS:

At times people will just show up in your path who are ideal to help you. This often happens in divine order and divine time as synchronicities to leverage you on your journey. This particularly happens when you are really, truly doing what makes your heart sing, you are giving your all, and you are in your “flow”.

While seemingly random and coincidental, the showing up of people/things/resources to help you on your path is very much the natural order.

However, you also have to proactively define who you need support from, to actively ask for that help and if you don't know where to find it… start asking questions, researching and reaching out.

PILLAR 6 – ACTION:

This pillar really needs no explanation. Here is a snippet from my first book Pinch Me which encapsulates all that I have to say about this…

“You can be positive, visualize, believe and affirm all you like. If you lock yourself in a cupboard and consistently do these things for the rest of your life, guess what happens? NOTHING! You’ll probably die in that cupboard!”

WAYS:

Don't fool yourself into thinking that anything else can take the place of action to create the change you are seeking.

At some point you just have to suck it up and get out there and start to make things happen in your life.

There may be fear, that is normal. There may be uncertainty, that is normal. There may be doubt, that is okay.

None of that stops you, unless you succumb to your mind. Your underlying motivator is bigger, gruntier, more compelling and emotionally important to you than any of these blocks combined. So take one step.

PILLAR 7 – NO FALL BACK:

Surprisingly, having a Plan B or a “Fall Back” position often doesn't serve you. You know that there are any number of possibilities available to you at any time. You know if something doesn't work out you can do an endless array of other things. That will never change. But you don't need to think, feel and act like that is what you intend to do. Forget it.

Your Plan B or fall back position is your safety net. As long as you have a safety net, you will be totally comfortable and willing to stay stuck or to fall over.

If you do not have a safety net, you will put every ounce of your effort, energy, dedication, focus, blood, sweat and tears into making your change/goal/dream a reality.

In essence, your fall back position keeps you playing a slightly smaller game than you are really capable of. It keeps you with one foot on either side of the fence, and that leaves you standing there a little awkward, a little unstable, and as committed to going backward as you are committed to going forward!

WAYS:

I'm not suggesting Plan B doesn't exist for you. You actually have more than a Plan B, you have an infinite number of Plans C, D, E, F… that you can tap into at any time if you heart desires to change direction.

But that is not currently what your heart desires, so quit it and get focused on there being ONLY ONE PLAN!

Your energy is creating your life, and you must put it fully, clearly and wholeheartedly on what you truly need and want in order to creatively bring it to fruition.

CONCLUSION:

To conclude, I send you big, bold, positive vibes in support of whatever you're creating in your life. I'd love to hear what that is, so please do scroll down and a leave me a comment. I read every message and will reply as soon as possible.

HOW TO STUDY WELL BY READING

HOW TO STUDY WELL BY READING

Can't concentrate when you read? Do you feel that the words go through your eyes and out your ears.

Here Is How To Study Well When Reading:
Reading Step 1; Get All Materials:
If you want to study properly, don't just bring your book. You will need a notebook and pencils, pens and highlighters. This will help you pay more attention when reading rather than reading passively.

Reading Step 2; Read It Once:
During this, read for content. Try to understand the overall message or story. Put a * with a pencil when you read something that you think is important, rare, or stands out. If you want, just read a page at a time.

Reading Step 3; Read It Again:
This time, read over, and see if the points with the * are still that important. If they are, Highlight them. There should be no more than 10 lines on a page that is highlighted. The highlighted points would help you find important quotes or sentences when you need them later on, or to study for exams. This way, you can skip reading it again, and only have to read the highlighted important points.

Reading Step 4; Take Notes:
Pull out your notebook and summarize what you read. Try to make it as short and precise as possible. You can make jot notes or a paragraph, which ever is easier for you to read later on.

Reading Step 5; Study:
You already read through the passage twice and used your own mind to rewrite and make notes, so it should be stuck in your head. But remember to review every 2-3 days to make sure you don't forget.

Reading Step 6; Review:
After reading comes the most important step–recollection. Recollection is what you get grades or marks for. Be prepared to give a thorough and detailed answer to the question, "What have you read?" If you can remember it now you will most likely remember it later. Your brain is like a muscle; you need to train it to do the job by doing it again and again. After all, you did not learn to run without learning to walk. You have learned your mother tongue by repeating again and remembering the use and meaning of every word you have heard from anyone around you.

NB:
After you finished making your final notes, pretend you are a professor and teach your imaginary class. Say whatever you can from memory, and if you must, go back. This can also tell you what you have down and what you have to study more.

If you must, read out loud. Sometimes hearing yourself say it makes it easier to memorize it.

Avoid any distractions. Don't read for 2 minutes and text for 2 minutes. Your mind must be 100% on what you are reading.

Do not procrastinate. If you have a week to do a reading, start right away. Don't wait until next week or you will have more readings to do, and be more discouraged. Get it out of the way and chill later.

If you want to learn effectively, prepare your note first.

Highlighting sentences can help the valuable information stick out to you.

Concentrate on the text you are reading.

Discuss the text or overall message with a friend or a classmate, particularly someone on the same page so you can relate and understand the situation better. Be sure to test each other to improve memory of what was just read.

ARGUING HELPS

ARGUING HELPS

"Lessons learned the hard way are usually the lessons we remember forever. If it takes a quarrel to learn something about each other, make it a positive and grow from it."

Some Ways Arguing Made My Relationship Stronger:

The idea of conflict, a heated discussion or arguing can be a turn off for most people. I mean, who wants to be in a disagreement with someone – especially if it’s somebody you love. It can be draining and sometimes scary. But studies show conflict is healthy and a sign of a mature relationship.

When my relationship first began, I thought it was close to perfect. I couldn’t fathom what me and my then just-a friend, now a true friend, would argue about. I was in for a rude awakening when we got into our first disagreement. Since I was not expecting it, I did not know how to react. After months of being together and several arguments later, I realized how arguing was strengthening my relationship.

1. Arguing Teaches You About Each Other:

I’m a firm believer in that: you do not honestly know somebody until you have seen them upset. Anger is an ugly emotion when used wrong, but it can also show us the real, hidden nature of somebody. When used correctly, anger can help you learn and grow with someone.

Through our initial disagreements, I learned that my true friend now likes to solve the issue immediately whereas I want to have a moment to myself. It was hard trying to speak instantly after a dispute. As a compromise, we tried stay on the phone – even if we were quiet — until we resolved the issue. Some days it worked, and some days it didn’t.

As our relationship continued to blossom, we learned more about each other. We discovered how a particular tone or comment might be off-putting to the other – even if we didn’t mean anything by it. It sometimes took for us to be in opposition to learn how we want to be treated, talked to or what bothers us. And, that’s okay.

Lessons learned the hard way are usually the lessons we remember forever.

If it takes a quarrel to learn something about each other, make it a positive and grow from it.

2. Arguing Forces You To Work Together:

It took a while for me to realize that at the end of the day, and during an argument, my true friend now and I wanted the same thing – to get back to normal us. We wanted to resume the laughing, the regular conversation and get back happy.

Getting into this mindset helped us power through many arguments by figuring out what the problem was. Once we realized the cause for the dispute — whether it being I felt ignored, or he felt attacked by my tone – it becomes easier to tackle the issue and not each other.

Helpful tip…

It should always be you and your partner against the problem, not you and your partner against each other.

3. Arguing Reminds You of Your Commitment:

Some relationships just do not work out because of one too many arguments. Somebody took it too far, or someone couldn’t handle the conflict. That’s unfortunate because most times it’s great couples breaking up because they don’t understand that arguments can be healthy and strengthen the relationship.

During the midst of a heated, healthy battle, you must remember why you are with the person. It is usually love, or if it’s a new relationship – a deep like. Recall the good things about your partner and the relationship because after the storm blows over, that’s what you’re going back to. Easier said than done, I know.

In the middle of a few arguments, there have been times where both my true friend and I have privately thought about (and later publicly laughed about, after we were good) calling it quits. But how silly were we, ready to end it all because I was upset he told me he didn’t like an outfit, or he misunderstood what I said in a text?

My advice is to resolve the conflict in an adult-like manner for a reminder of why you are with your significant other. It also makes the next argument slightly easier because you have been through a few, got through a few and still love or like the person, you’re with. (Make sure you still like or love the person you’re with.)

Don’t allow a little scuffle, dispute or misunderstanding to tear your relationship apart. Instead, learn from it and realize how arguments can help strengthen your relationship. Imagine how much stronger your bond can be from learning about each other, working together to resolve a conflict and remembering why you're with each other.

Final Reflection:

Real relationships aren’t easy, but it’s always worth it. Even now into my engagement, my true friend and I still have disagreements, and I expect to, long into when we’re married. But I remember how it helps us. Next time you and your beau find yourselves in a dispute, try to recall what I wrote to help you push through.