IF YOU HAVE BEEN COOKING WITH RED OIL PLEASE READ THIS

IF YOU HAVE BEEN COOKING WITH RED OIL PLEASE READ THIS

Palm oil is the red thick oil obtained when palm fruits are boiled, pounded and squeezed. They are the most common oil used by Nigerians in preparing a lot of local means.

Have you been using this oil to cook? Here are things you should know about it. Palm oil contains several vitamins and minerals hence capable of providing these health benefits.

1. Reduces Risk Of Stroke:

Several studies have revealed that red palm oil significantly reduces the risk of suffering a cerebrovascular injury. Apart from that, red palm oil also proved to be the most important source of tocotrienol, an antioxidant which provides significant neuroprotection on the brain which is the reason why it's often used in the treatment of stroke patients.

2. Supports Heart Health:

Palm oil has been proven to support cardiovascular health in several ways. This beneficial effect has been largely attributed to tocotrienols and mixed carotenes found in large capacities in fresh red palm oil. 

3. Reduces Risk Of Cancer:

Arguably the most potent anticancer nutrient known, tocotrienol in palm oil blocks and gets rid of harmful free radicals preventing them from causing oxidative injury to vital body organs. By this action, it fights against growth of cancerous cells in the breast, pancreas, liver, skin, stomach, colon and prostate.

4. Supports Vision:

Vitamin A present in palm oil has been proved to be very necessary for a healthy vision and its deficiency is often the leading cause of night blindness. Palm oil however, enhances the absorption of this fat-soluble vitamin in the intestines. This nutritional oil is also loaded with alpha- and beta- carotenes which are important precursors in the synthesis of vitamin A

5. Protects From Degenerative Brain Disease:

Neurodegenerative diseases of the brain including Alzheimer's disease, Parkinson's disease and senile dementia can be prevented by constant consumption of fresh palm oil.

USE THESE IDEAS TO SUPPORT YOURSELF

USE THESE IDEAS TO SUPPORT YOURSELF

Today I have some ideas to share with you, as little practices you can use if you're interested in...

Living in alignment with a higher good being a channel for love to flow through you connecting with other people in a soulful way.

Simply pick whatever idea resonates most and practice it today.

1. Listen:

Listen with intent to understand.

Set aside everything you know.

Set aside anything you automatically want to say.

Listen deeply to put yourself in the shoes of whoever you are with.

2. Care:

Care with the greatest depth possible about any person who crosses your path.

Care with the same depth you would have for your own self or for your own loved ones.

Care so deeply as if you are being asked by life itself to be a channel for love.

3. Ask:

Ask to be shown what the higher good is any given moment or interaction.

Ask what greater need exists to be met - beyond what your own needs might be, beyond your own agenda and beyond what your beliefs may incline you toward.

If you are spiritual, religious or of any faith practice, you may resonate with asking these questions of Source, God, Creator, the Universe. Simply ask that which you relate to as a Higher Power.

4. Act:

Imagine that each day life will place into our path what we each most need to see, hear, learn from, understand, know and act upon. 

Our job is to activate with love in those moments in the best possible way we can.

Pay close attention to inspired nudges from within to take action.

Remember actions speak louder than words, and actions allow us to BE the fullest expression of who we are.

With love, Omasiri JM is saying to you wherever you are in the world, I send love and best wishes in support of you. I said unto you, use your voice for kindness, your ears for compassion, your hands for charity, your mind for truth, and your heart for love.

SEE THE WAY TO PERMANENTLY END BEG BUG IN YOUR HOME

SEE THE WAY TO PERMANENTLY END BEG BUG IN YOUR HOME

Bed bugs are small blood sucking insects, adults are oval and flat bodied. One bug has both male and female reproductive organ, and this makes their multiplication easy as one bed bug is enough to breed a thousand in your home.

Bed bugs are very difficult to eradicate, they easily build up resistance againts chemicals.

Sniper and insect powder has little or no effect on them because of adulteration of these products.

A stronger mixture is required to terminate them permernently.

These mixtures do not just slow their growth or reduce their number but it kills them.

Use any of these mixtures to end bed bugs permernently.

Kerosene, Canfor, Snipper OR Kerosene, Canfor, Baking soda.

For either mixture one or two mix all three Ingredients that make up the mixtures together.

If you choose mixture two, ensure you pot enough baking soda.

DIRECTION FOR USE:

Apply on the edges of the Mattress, Chairs, Pillows e.t.c

Apply for 3-5 days consecutively so as to clear them completely from the foams, matteresses and walls in the house. It will bring discomfort as a result of the smell but it's worth a try and this gives the best result.

Ensure you lock all the windows and doors and leave the house for 1-2hours after spraying this mixture because inhaling it is dangerous to your health and keeping the doors and windows locked improves the effectiveness of the mixture( the more the concentration, the more the effectiveness).

Like, share and comment here and testify on the effect of this mixture if you have used it before.

Thanks

HOPE FILLED WITNESS TO A BROKEN WORLD

HOPE FILLED WITNESS TO A BROKEN WORLD

 

Americans are more miserable and unfit than ever before, with life expectancy in its first multi-year decline since the 1960s. Opioid addiction rates have spiked to shocking levels, with overdoses now the leading cause of injury death. And of course, just two days ago, seventeen people were shot and killed by a deranged teen at a Florida high school.

It’s to this bruised and broken world that the Catholic Church sends us, the laity, to evangelize—no matter how busy we are, or how much we struggle to make sense of the madness around us. “Even when preoccupied with temporal cares,” the Second Vatican Council teaches, we are called to “perform a work of great value for the evangelization of the world” (Lumen Gentium 35).

The council goes on to say that we are to do this, first, by asking God for wisdom and deepening our grasp of revealed truth. But Lumen Gentium also singles out the Christian family as playing a unique role in this effort, in a way that may surprise you:

For where Christianity pervades the entire mode of family life, and gradually transforms it, one will find there both the practice and an excellent school of the lay apostolate. In such a home husbands and wives find their proper vocation in being witnesses of the faith and love of Christ to one another and to their children. The Christian family loudly proclaims both the present virtues of the Kingdom of God and the hope of a blessed life to come. Thus by its example and its witness it accuses the world of sin and enlightens those who seek the truth.

It’s the last line that is so striking. What does it mean to say that a Christian family “accuses the world of sin”?  Simply put, it’s a recognition that we live in a world that’s hurting, but a world that often doesn’t realize that it’s hurting—or doesn’t realize that there’s a better way.  

How we live on earth is a foretaste of either heaven or hell. If we’re headed towards damnation, our lives seldom are great until the moment of our deaths. Rather, the consequences of our bad actions catch up with us and affect us, even in this life. People who give themselves over to greed, promiscuity, gluttony, jealousy, and selfishness ultimately destroy their own lives and the lives of those around them. The “glamor of evil” is a thin veneer hiding an ugly and unpleasant reality, and one need only to watch the news to see it. So it’s not surprising that as our country turns further from God, it descends further into a life-shortening malaise.

On the other hand, a family committed to sanctity is a family helping to bring about heaven on earth in its own small way. If all someone has ever known is materialism, promiscuity, self-medication, broken families, and the rest, these things can seem so normal that he doesn’t realize there’s a better way. He will never learn that there is, unless he encounters something better.

Therefore, part of the evangelical mission of the Christian family is to proclaim to the world—to witness to each suffering person in the world—that there is a better way. That’s why the council speaks of two closely related roles of the Christian family: “accusing the world of sin” and “enlightening those who seek the truth.”

Why the family?

For starters, because the family is visible, in a way that priests can’t be. People who might never cross paths with a man in a Roman collar (who might even go out of their way to avoid him) can’t help but to encounter families on a regular basis. If our coworkers, friends, and family members are going to have a life-saving encounter with the gospel, we can’t just hope that they meet a great priest. Instead, we should recognize that they were likely placed in our lives (and on our hearts) so that we could be God’s instrument of salvation.

But it’s more than that. The family also presents a realistic alternative to the world’s way of living. Most of us aren’t called to be priests or religious, and it’s easy to write their holiness off as something that’s just for their states of life. The Christian family, on the other hand, shows us that holiness is for those of us in “real life,” and that sanctity is within all of our reach. This doesn’t mean we should pretend our families are phony-perfect, papering over the real difficulties of family life, but that we must live even times of tumult and trial with the graces offered by Jesus Christ. It is precisely in these moments that the Christian family shines forth in its distinctiveness.

It’s easy to get overwhelmed by the Church’s call to evangelize, or to try to pass the buck to our priests. But laypeople living in happy, healthy Christian families are a credible witness to the life-changing power of the gospel, and the true joy of sanctity. So to quote John Paul II (and the angel Gabriel), “Do not be afraid!” Amidst an unhappy world, we are bearers of truly Good News, and our lives and families reflect this hopeful reality.

HOW TO LET YOUR EX KNOW YOU HAVE MOVED ON

HOW TO LET YOUR EX KNOW YOU HAVE MOVED ON

"I'm better off without you", "I like the woman I'm becoming". Do these statements ring a bell? Many of us have come across quotes like this on WhatsApp, Facebook and so on. Whenever we see quotes like this, the first thing that comes to mind is that the individual who posted it, just got out of a relationship.

I find it funny that after a break up, most people try to prove that they're over their exes by posting motivational quotes like the ones above or memes aimed at making their exes feel uncomfortable. For example, a girl who just got out of a relationship with a stingy guy may constantly post memes condemning stingy guys on her WhatsApp status, hoping her ex will see it and feel bad. Or a girl who just got out of a relationship with a guy who constantly ignored her, may start posting motivational quotes like "Don't force yourself on anybody", "don't settle for less", "don't stay where you are not wanted" etc immediately after the breakup.

 

If you really want to give your ex the impression that you're over them, posting memes and motivational quotes is not the way. The best way to do that is to act like nothing happened, and that should also reflect in what you post on your WhatsApp status or anywhere else. Post normal stuff, don't post anything relating to breakups or relationships. When you constantly post motivational quotes after a breakup, it gives your ex the impression that you're still thinking about them and that you're still hurt. But when you act like nothing happened, it makes your ex wonder if they ever meant anything to you (I'm talking from experience).

 

You should also avoid making your ex feel that you hate them, scientists say that our pupils dilate when we see someone we love or someone we hate, so when you hate someone, they still have an effect on you physically, mentally and emotionally. It's better for your ex to think that you've forgotten about them than to think that you hate them. I've actually met a guy who was satisfied with the fact that his ex girlfriend still hated him, he said her hatred was proof that she was not over him yet. They later got back together but the bottom line is that when you harbour hatred for an ex, it means you're not over them completely.

You may never want to get back together with them, but they still have a strong effect on you and your mood, so try as much as possible to forget, not hate. Some people might hurt you so much that you can't even control your hatred for them, take all the time you need to heal from the pain, but don't make it obvious to them that you hate them, you don't have to put on a fake smile when you see them, just be civil, avoid sounding angry or bitter. *This is just my opinion, not a fact, do whatever you think is best for you*

Note: you should only do all this if you want to give your ex the impression that you've moved on, if you want to hash out the problems between you and your ex, there is no need to act like you don't care about them anymore but play it cool so you don't seem desperate. Also, if the issue that resulted in the breakup is a very serious one, it's better to discuss it and iron it out than to act like nothing happened.

SWITCHING CAREERS

SWITCHING CAREERS

 

"Your work is going to fill a large part of your life, and the only way to be truly satisfied is to do what you believe is great work. And the only way to do great work is to love what you do."

When you were a child, what did you dream of doing with your life?

"When I grow up I want to be a _____________" (fill in the blank!)

When I was a kid I thought about many things to do at a time I got to the point where I thought at one point I wanted to be a ice-cream truck driver. Legit!

Yes, my wee 5 year old self was completely enamoured with the ice cream truck and it's sweet music and sweet flavors. Plus, if I'm really honest... I loved all the little compartments that they kept the toppings in. It was so organized and it appealed to my perfectionist heart.

Then I wanted to be a florist. 

Then an equestrian related person (anything to do with horses!)

Then I grew up. And I proceeded to have a colourful career, doing none of those things (desires which I outgrew), but I had so many awesome jobs doing lots of different things.

And I moved jobs often (about every 18-24 months). My longest period was in the company I worked for some years, until I found my life passion (which I've been doing now till date).

The point is this... if you ever feel like it's time for a new career, GIFT YOURSELF the OPPORTUNITY FOR CHANGE. Let yourself be lit up by new possibilities.

I saw thousands and thousands of resumes in my time in company, interviewed and met SO many people with diverse career paths. People following their intuition and heart, reaching beyond their comfort zones, trying new things, and taking new opportunities. You don't have to stick to just one path.

But, here's the challenge for many people...

Often people end up trapped in careers they don't like and staying there because they think...

> I've invested too much time in this path already, I'm best to stick at it.

> I've invested too much money in studying to get qualified for this field, I'd better stick it out.

> I'm too old to change careers.

> It's too hard to change careers.

> It won't look good to other people if I switch paths.

> This is all I know how to do.

> No one else will want to hire me because...

> This is the only thing I'm good at.

> I don't think I'll be good enough to do anything else.

We are born explorers.

You are clever and you are capable of many things. 

You are in fact capable of learning, growing and doing things beyond your wildest imagination.

Sure changing career paths can be inconvenient in some ways, but it's also super exciting!

Sure changing career paths can be confronting and a bit scary, but it's also filled with amazing opportunity.

> If you love what you do, awesome!

> If you don't love what you do, maybe there are small changes you can make in your existing career path to make it more enjoyable?

> If you REALLY don't like what you do (and you consistently feel that way and it's negatively affecting your life), consider gifting yourself the chance for a change.

And by the way, I'm not an advocate of quitting your career cold-turkey and jumping off the cliff edge, ending up in a pressured situation while you try to figure out what to do next. That can work for some people very well, and some people have the resources to sustain that type of break between jobs. But most people feel safer, more confident and find it more financially viable to keep their secure career in place while simultaneously looking for new opportunities, studying part-time or perhaps even starting a business on the side. 

You have to figure out what makes you tick and do what feels good to you uniquely.

There are so many colours to you and to what your career can be.

Whether it's creating bouquets of flowers for delighted customers.

Or being a "Mr Somebody".

Or looking after horses.

Or life coaching.

OR whatever YOUR OWN HEART DESIRES... 

Let's live life fully.

This is not a dress rehearsal!

ADVANTAGES AND DISADVANTAGES OF STAYING IN LAGOS; ADVANTAGES

ADVANTAGES AND DISADVANTAGES OF STAYING IN LAGOS: 4th June 2020

ADVANTAGES

Lagos has a huge Market for your Products and Services. Infact someone said that if you package a refuse bin and sell it in Oshodi, you will sell off everything in a matter of hours , if not minutes. That is to tell you that there is a market for any kind of products and services you offer.

Lagos has the best nightLife: If you are the type that never sleeps, you love clubbing and flexing then Lagos is your home because as the "City that never sleeps and the headquarter of Entertainment in Nigeria, Lagos is a City filled with fund, coastal Tourism activities, Clubbing, patties and all Kinds of Events.

Lagos Supports and Nurtures Small and Medium Scale Business: Lagos helps you to nurture your Small scale Business. The City has all it takes for an Entrepreneur to succeed, from vibrant Startup EcoSystem, access to finance, grants and high profile events to different Networking events, master classes and exhibitions to mention but a few.

Lagos has many Job Opportunities: Although Lagos is no longer Like before in terms of Job Opportunities, when compared with other states, Lagos is still ahead.

There are many Business Opportunities in Lagos: Your One week Stay in Lagos will bring thousands of business ideas rummaging your brain. The City is full of business Ideas.

Lagos is a City of the Hustlers: If you are born a hustler, there is a high tendency for you to survive in Lagos. If you are hardworking, Lagos is the best place to be.

DISADVANTAGES OF LAGOS

Cost of Transport is on the High Side: In Lagos, if you are not careful you may end up working and have transportation gulp up your earnings. Just yesterday I spent around 2500 naira just to convey myself from Ikeja to Lekki Phase 1. Just imagine someone spending such an amount of money everyday to convey his or herself to Lekki everyday. By the end of the Month he will be spending close to 70K only on Transport. Now you understand while people are working in Lagos, yet they have nothing to show for it.

LAGOS TRAFFIC IS A NIGHTMARE: Lagos is a City where you can stay in the Traffic for many hours. Have you heard the Story of Funke who went to drop her Aunty who is based in London at the Airport. While Funke was still in traffic, her Aunty called her that she had successfully arrived at London. That is a tip of an iceberg on how horrendous Lagos Traffic is. When I first Entered Lagos, I was to attend an Interview at VI, then I was residing in Ojo. Since I was ignorant of Lagos traffic, I woke up around 6 O'clock to prepare just like every other person's living in other cities will do. But did you know that singular act cost me that Job which I was pretty sure of being selected for because I arrived at the interview venue by 12pm.

House Rent in Lagos is on the High Side: Unlike other Cities in Nigeria, Lagos is the only City where you will pay for agent and agreement as equal or sometimes higher than your House rent. Still don't know why the state Government is not rising up to criminalise such evil perpetrated by Landlords and agents. You will hear them saying 50, 50 for a self Contained apartment of 120,000. Another thing is that finding a decent house might be a little challenging to you unless you have enough bucks or are ready to live in the satellite towns which will be far from the City center. Another thing is may God help you not to enter the wrong house which Lagos is mostly Characterised with.

There is No fresh Air in Lagos: With a population of about 30 Million people crowded in the smallest state in Nigeria by Land mass. It will be a miracle for you to have fresh air. If you need fresh air in Lagos maybe you might just relocate to Ikorodu or Epe part of Lagos which is currently being hit by high waves of urbanisation.

Lagos is a Dirty City: Although the present Government is trying all it can to keep the City clean but that does not take away the fact that Lagos is one of the dirtiest Cities in Nigeria.

There is too much Noise in Lagos: Yes there is too much Noise in the City. From the Danfo drivers and conductors who rant like a Sallah ram, to Agberos who are vociferously constituting nuisance with their cracked voice, indeed Lagos is very noisy except you live in quiet Estates in luxurious neighbourhoods.

Connecting with the Rich in Lagos is a little bit hard: Unlike in Abuja and other Cities in Nigeria where you can always run into an influential person and you connect with them and possibly exchange contact. That will only happen in Lagos by Devine connection from above. Everybody in the City is very careful because of "Onye ma Onye" (who knows who).

FINALLY

Before you make that move to either relocate to Lagos or to relocate out of Lagos. Just sit down with one bottle of cold Trophy and a plate of Isiewu or Delicious Nkwobi and ask yourself some mind boggling questions that will enable you to make a good decision you will never regret.

SOME WAYS TO RESOLVE FEELING INADEQUATE

SOME WAYS TO RESOLVE FEELING INADEQUATE

Most of us have struggled with feelings of inadequacy at some time or other in our lives. Maybe we were nervous about being a good parent or down about not getting a job we wanted. For some people, however, that inadequate feeling is pervasive and becomes their default feeling, only retreating temporarily when something great happens to overshadow it. No one should have to live on that roller-coaster, and with the following techniques, it is more than possible to get off of it.

Psychologists have long attributed persistent or recurring feelings of inadequacy to childhood experiences. We’re not born feeling inadequate, but children who are told they are at a young age start thinking “There must be something wrong with me”, and as they grow older those feelings become ingrained in their psyches.

Another, less mentioned, way feelings of inadequacy can manifest themselves is when neurodivergent people, for example people on the autism spectrum, slip through the cracks and don’t get diagnosed or supported. They can spend their childhoods feeling “weird” or “wrong” because they don’t fit in and the feeling follows them into adulthood.

Whichever the source, it’s important to get a handle on these insidious feelings before they take up too much more of your time. You are too valuable to spend any more time feeling suffocated by inappropriate nagging doubts of your ability! Here are 5 simple yet effective ways to keep those feelings at bay, and practicing them on a regular basis can force your brain to get and stay out of that self-depreciating habit.

Here Are Some Of The Ways To Resolve Feeling Inadequate:

1) Imagine yourself as a child during the earliest time you felt inadequate and “talk” to yourself as an adult would if they knew what was going through your head. The encouraging words will make it evident that it was not your fault and the feeling of inadequacy was not related to an actual case of being inadequate.

2) Imagine how you would think of someone else if they were in your situation. You aren’t the only person who’s ever been passed over for a job. Is everyone else inadequate as well?

“Lighten up on yourself. No one is perfect Gently accept your humanness”- Deborah Day.

3) Just like any other time a negative emotion feels overwhelming, use your body to flood that suffocating feeling with oxygen. Go for a jog or do another type of activity that will force you to step out of your head for a little while. Exercise can take the edge off of almost anything.

4) Stand in the “power pose”- chest high, legs slightly apart, and hands on hips for 2 minutes, taking deep breaths. Initial studies showed the power pose increased the “confidence” hormone, testosterone. Those results are mixed, but repeated studies have consistently shown that it does make people feel more powerful, and when you feel powerful, it's pretty hard to feel inadequate.

“Never bend your head. Always hold it high. Look the world straight in the face.”- Helen Keller

5) Remind yourself of times when you’ve overcome adversity by solving a problem or improving a situation. Remember that feeling.

Depending on how deep-rooted your feeling of inadequacy is, it might take several times for these exercises to become habits. Of course, sometimes it’s appropriate to feel doubt about your ability when the task is obviously beyond your skill or education, but these exercises will help you think logically and get your brain out of the habit of defaulting to self-doubt. Use these tips to banish those incompetent feelings, and let your brain see yourself the way you really are: just as capable as anyone else!

A Rather Sad Story

A Rather sad story.

Yesterday at about 5pm, at Asokoro, I saw, by Ecowas building, a young woman of about 26 years roaming the streets and speaking to herself. She was obviously mad, newly mad. Her clothes were just dirty, not torn yet, she had an afro hairdo, and she had a bag.

In that girl, a saw a soul crying for help. She could be my sister, your sister or even anyone's daughter. So I approached her. She spoke well, an evidence of good breeding. But then after being initially friendly, she became very hostile when I began to probe her. My intention was to see if i could get info to enable me reach her people. She wouldn't or couldn't tell. All she would say is that she is from London and her name, Chika. Of course, this information from her, may or may not be true.

So I left her, as it was getting late. This early morning I mobilised my staff and we got cracking. Some went in search of her on the streets of while I went online in search of a psychiatric hospital or unit. We drew a blank. But luckily after physical visits to all government hospitals in Abuja, we finally found one at Karu.

Meanwhile those searching the streets for her could only locate her at about 4pm in the evening being that she is mobile and ambulatory.

To cut a long story short, I can now report that the lady in this pix is now safely admitted in the psychiatric hospital. It wasn't easy but she has been admitted with me registered as her next of kin. And she is responding to treatment. She is simply suffering from treatable mental illness and no one should be abandoned the way our society seems to abandon the mentally ill. Sure, it cost me time and money, but it is worth every bit of it.

We still have not been able to get any information from her regarding her family or her people. So please, contact me via inbox if you know her.

Meanwhile, can we all share very widely until someone can identify her and come for her. It is very likely that her people are also searching for her.

~ Ray Ugba Morphy

(Please share after reading )

MANNERS IN PUBLIC LIFE

*MANNERS IN PUBLIC LIFE*

GOOD MANNERS IN A CELEBRATION WITH BUFFET (SERVE YOURSELF)

*1. Do Not Be Wasteful:*

Take what you can finish, while considering others so that it could reach them.

*2. Stay In Turn:*

Making use of turns means that you should wait till it gets to your turn before you go to dish out your food. While taking your turn, try to fast about it to avoid people waiting for you.

*3. Eat Your Food In A Sitting Position Maintaining Your Table Manners:*

After dishing out your food, gently locate your seat, be seated before you start eating what you have collected.

*4. Observe A Personal Hygiene:*

Do not presume that all is washed. Make sure you wash your hands and rinse the cutleries.

*5. Do Not Take Away:*

No need of taking things away. Eat what you can eat, but always  maintaining a good eating habits. Do not eat or drink to excess. Exercise your freedom responsibly in a party with buffet.

THE TRUTH YOU NEED TO KNOW FOR PEACE AND HAPPINESS

*THE TRUTH YOU NEED TO KNOW FOR PEACE AND HAPPINESS*

We're all beautiful human beings here in this world trying to find our way.

Every day we seek to better understand the meaning of our lives. We long to discover our gifts and release them fully into the world, and we hope to find happiness and peace along the way.

For some of us these desires ring loud and clear, driving what we do and how we do it.

For others, these deep seeded needs are buried below the noise of daily life, below ego, below fear, below the pressures and norms that we face in society… and thus, they are rarely addressed.

In all cases, the peace and happiness they discover and gradually develop internally is seeded by the realization of certain fundamental truths.

It seems we are all here to realize these truths, in our own way, in our own time. And once they resonate fully, not just intellectually, but emotionally and spiritually, we are then able to find the peace and happiness we seek, no matter what…

*1. It’s Impossible For Anyone Else To Define YOU:*

You are indefinable. You are the only one in this world who gets to say who you are. Circumstances and the opinions of others can only define you if you allow them to. Do not give away your power and the magic of your essence by putting weight on negative situations in your life or the negative words of other people.

*2. You Were Born With Everything You Need:*

There is nothing you are missing. There is no need to frantically become more, be more, do more, or get more. You are whole and complete, and were gifted every talent and insight you needed to thrive in this world in the moment you were born. Your only job is to accept this truth and then allow it to unfold. Some gifts don’t become apparent until later in life. Some insights only become clear to you once you have life experiences that unlock such wisdom from within you. Trust in this and relax.

*3. You Are NOT Your Thoughts:*

You are the witnessing essence and consciousness behind the noise in your mind. Your mind doesn’t define you, nor does it control you. It is not who you are. As soon as you recognize this, by watching your thoughts like an intrigued third-party observer, you will create instant distance from those thoughts and therefore no longer be identified with or enslaved by them.

*4. Your Beliefs Can Be Modified To Lift You Up:*

Whatever you believe to be true about yourself and life in the long-term becomes your reality. Your beliefs are ingrained patterns of thinking that you build up over a lifetime. They are habitual ways of processing the world around you. If those beliefs don’t work in your favour, you can change them. How? In the very same way the negative beliefs formed in the first place – via repetitive thoughts that you accepted to be the truth.

*5. The Past And Future Don’t Exist:*

Now is the moment. The past is just a memory. The future is a mental projection. You can choose to dwell back in the past for learning and joyous reflection. You can choose to dwell in the future for visualization and practical planning. However, any time your awareness floats away to the past or future frequently for negative purposes, you are suffocating your ability to thrive in the only moment you ever have… the now.

With love, *Omasiri JM* is promising you the continuation of this.

THE IMPACTS OF SIN IN OUR HEARTS

*THE IMPACTS OF SIN IN OUR HEARTS*

Sin is simply defined as "any action, words, or thoughts" that is against the majestic and glorious power of God. We cannot assume the holiness of God in sin, that's why the scripture says, "nothing impure will enter the kingdom of God" (Rev. 21:27). Sin has great negative impact on our spiritual soul. Prophet Isaiah captures this very well "No, the arm of Yahweh is not too short to save, nor his ear too dull to hear, but your guilty deeds have made a gulf between you and your God. Your sins have made him hide his face from you so as not to hear you. (Isaiah 59:1-2).

This seminar will not only lay claim to the negative impacts of sins to our souls, but will move on to discuss on how much a Christian can transcend sin, especially through thoughts, words, action.

We have two kinds of sin,  Original sin and actual sin. Original, because it owes from our first parents Adam and Eve. Their sins had a great impact to his offspring. We were tainted by sin. We received concupiscence (tendency to sin) from them. Humanity learnt disobedience, faithlessness, mistrust, impurity. But thanks be to Jesus, who restored man to righteousness. Jesus reversed what Adam did, because He obeyed even to death, faithful, trusted God and pure. With Baptism, we deal a mortal blow to Original sin. A Christian, even though has been cleansed of original sin has learnt something which is disastrous to his faith. This is why a Christian is encouraged to make effort to unlearn the impacts of original sin. He has the freedom to say "no" to sins. He has a befitting intelligence to deal with sin. As such "actual sin" is the sin committed after baptism of which he had the full knowledge of it, but went on to do it. (freedom and Intelligence).

In Actual sin, the Church further classified them into two; mortal and venial sin. Mortal sin is regarded as a grave sin and it kills the soul and would definitely lead the sinner to hell fire. One mortal sin is enough to lead one into hell. A sin is considered to be "mortal" when its quality is such that it leads to a separation of that person from God's saving grace.   The lists of mortal sin are found in transgressions against the decalogue (10 commandment), The sin against the Holy Ghost and the sins that cry to Heaven for vengeance, 7 capital sins etc. Venial sin does not kill the soul because it does not create strong aversion from God, but when not managed, will lead one to mortal sin.

Some Pentecostals so much repel the idea of sin classified. For them, there is nothing like mortal or venial sin, sin is sin. They quote James 2:10-11 which says "You see, anyone who keeps the whole of the Law but trips up on a single point, is still guilty of breaking it all."

On this we would all agree that every sin is evil before God whether mortal or venial, but this classification would help us to understand stages of spiritual growth. A person who is still struggling with mortal sin is really far away from God's love than the one who is only struggling with venial sins. In fact, St. James was not trying to talk about this distinction but to emphasize more of the deadly nature of mortal sin and how mortal sins are united. Take a look at the example he gave in verse 11, " He who said, 'You must not commit adultery' said also, 'You must not kill.' Now if you commit murder, you need not commit adultery as well to become a breaker of the Law." We can find this distinction well in 1 John 5:17 "Every kind of wickedness is sin, but not all sin leads to death."

DO YOU LEAVE THE TOILET SEAT UP WHEN YOU FLUSH? BE WARNED!

DO YOU LEAVE THE TOILET SEAT UP WHEN YOU FLUSH? BE WARNED!

Why you should always put the lid down when flushing the toilet: Scientist reveals poo particles and other droplets spread into the air and land all over your bathroom from walls to towels.

It's one of the most annoying customs in many relationships, when one forgets to put the lid down before flushing the toilet.

But now a scientist has waded into the years old debate and explained exactly why people have a reason to moan about the disgusting habit.

Charles Gerba, a professor of microbiology at the University of Arizona, said: 'You get a good spray out of the toilet area.

It's one of the most annoying customs in many relationships, when one forgets to put the lid down before flushing the toilet. It's one of the most annoying customs in many relationships, when one forgets to put the lid down before flushing the toilet. Not putting the toilet lid down before flushing the water allows a cloud of bacteria to explode into the air.

This showering of bacteria can settle on nearby surfaces in the bathroom, including toothbrushes, towels and even walls.

It can be known as the 'aerosol effect' to some scientists, but others refer to the unpleasant scenario as 'toilet plume'.

Experts warn that this increases the risk of viruses such as the winter vomiting bug, or norovirus, of transmitting to another person.

Jason Tetro, a visiting scientist at the University of Guelph, said each time you flush 'an aerosol is created due to the rush of water into the bowl'. He added: 'When this happens, any microbes deposited into said toilet may be sent into the surrounding environment.'

Mr Tetro is also the author of The Germ Files: The Surprising Way Microbes Can Improve Health and Life (and How to Protect Yourself From the Bad Ones).

Over the course of a day, the average person is believed to flush the toilet up to six times, according to Realtor.

This is the equivalent of 2,190 flushes - which can use up around 1.6 gallons (6l) - in an entire year.

Fortunately, newer low-flow toilets have lessened the chances of the 'aerosol effect' but a lot of older toilets are still in use and so the risk is still there.

Microbiologist Philip Tierno previously told Tech Insider: 'It is a good idea to lower the seat, especially if the bathroom is used by multiple people.'

This is because aerosol plumes can be transported up to 10 inches above a toilet seat when it is flushed - and remain in the air for up to an hour.

HAND DRYERS 'SUCK IN' BUGS FROM FLUSHING TOILETS 

Hot-air hand dryers in public bathrooms 'suck in' bacteria from flushing toilets, research suggested in April.

Dryers have long been known for their ability to disperse germs from people's hands on to surrounding surfaces.

However, the University of Connecticut findings imply less powerful versions actually bathe hands in bacteria circulating in bathrooms.

Trials showed 254 pathogen colonies grew within 18 hours of being blasted with dryer air for 30 seconds.

In comparison, just six colonies grew within the same time frame in a setting without hand dryers.

These bacteria can include MRSA, which can lead to life-threatening sepsis, pneumonia or toxic shock syndrome.

SEX AND THE SEARCH FOR INTIMACY

SEX AND THE SEARCH FOR INTIMACY

Find out how to love and be loved. Experience real intimacy in your relationships...

A friend, said that there is a syndrome, a pattern, when couples come to him. They say, "At first, sex was exciting. Then I started feeling funny about myself, and then I started feeling funny about my partner. We argued and fought and finally we broke up. Now we are enemies."

What is love - intimacy. This syndrome is what I call the morning-after syndrome. We wake up and find that intimacy is not really there. The sexual relationship does not satisfy us anymore, and what we end up with is not what we really wanted in the first place. All you have is two self-centered people seeking self-satisfaction. The elements of genuine love and intimacy cannot be obtained "instantly," and you find yourself in an unbalanced state, searching for harmony.

Intimacy means more than the physical.

Each of us has five significant parts in our lives. We have:

The Physical,

The Emotional,

The Mental,

The Social, and

The Spiritual.

All five of these parts are designed to work together in harmony. In our search for intimacy we want the solution today, or yesterday. One of our problems is that we want "instant" gratification. When the need for intimacy in a relationship is not met, we look for an "instant" solution. Where do we look? Physical, Mental, Social, Emotional or Spiritual?

It's the physical. It is easier to be physically intimate with someone than to be intimate in any of the other four areas. You can become physically intimate with a person of the opposite sex in an hour, or half-hour - it just depends upon the urge! But you soon discover that sex may only be a temporary relief for a superficial desire. There is a much deeper need that is still unmet.

What do you do when the thrill wears off and the more you have sex, the less you like it? We rationalize it by saying, "We are in love. No, I mean really in love." But we still find ourselves feeling guilty and unsatisfied. On campuses all across the Country I see men and women searching for intimacy, going from one relationship to another hoping, "This time will be it. This time I am going to find a relationship that will last."

What is love - intimacy I believe that what we really want is not sex. What we really want is intimacy.

Today, the word intimacy has taken on sexual connotations. But it is much more than that. It includes all the different dimensions of our lives - yes, the physical, but also the social, emotional, mental and spiritual aspects as well. Intimacy really means total life sharing. And haven't we all had the desire at one time or another for closeness, for oneness, for sharing our life with someone totally?

The fear of intimacy – afraid to be loved?

Marshall Hodge wrote a book called Your Fear of Love. In it he says, "We long for moments of expressions of love, closeness and tenderness, but frequently, at the critical point, we often draw back. We are afraid of closeness. We are afraid of love." Later in the same book Hodge states, "The closer you come to somebody, the greater potential there is for pain." It is the fear of pain that often drives us away from finding true intimacy.

I was somewhere after one of the meetings, a woman came up to me and said, "I have to talk to you about my boyfriend problems." We sat down, and she began telling me her troubles. After a few moments, she made this statement: "I am now taking steps never to get hurt again." I said to her, "In other words, you are taking steps never to love again." She had thought I misunderstood, so she continued. "No, that's not what I am saying. I just don't want to get hurt anymore. I don't want pain in my life." I said, "That's right, you don't want love in your life." You see, there is no such thing as "painless love." The closer we come to somebody, the greater potential there is for pain.

I would estimate that you (and around 100 percent of the population) would say you have been hurt in a relationship before. The question is, how do you handle that hurt? In order to camouflage the pain, a lot of us give people what I call the "double-sign." We say to a person, "Look, I want you to come closer to me. I want to love and be loved . . . but wait a minute, I've been hurt before. No, I don't want to talk about these subjects. I don't want to hear those things." We build walls around our hearts to protect us from anyone on the outside getting in to hurt us. But that same wall which keeps people out, keeps us stuck inside. The result? Loneliness sets in and true intimacy and love become impossible.

What is love?

What is love - intimacy. Love is more than emotions, and it is much more than a good feeling. But our society has taken what God has said about love, sex and intimacy and changed it into simply emotions and feelings. God describes love in great detail in the Bible, especially in the Book of First Corinthians, chapter 13. So that you catch the full weight of God's definition of love, let me present verses four through seven (1 Corinthians 13:4-7) to you this way. How much would it meet your needs if a person loved you as God says we should be loved:

> If this person responded to you with patience, kindness, and was not envious of you?

> If this person was not boastful or prideful?

> How about if this person wasn't rude toward you or self-seeking or easily angered?

> What if this person didn't keep a record of your wrongs?

> How about if they refused to be deceitful, but always were truthful with you?

> What if this person protected you, trusted you, always hoped for your good, and persevered through conflicts with you?

This is how God defines the love He wants us to experience in relationships. You'll notice that this kind of love is "other-person" focused. It is giving, rather than self-seeking. And there's the problem. Who can live up to this?

For real intimacy, we first need to feel loved.

For us to experience this kind of love in relationships we need to first experience God's love for us. You can't consistently demonstrate this kind of love toward someone if you've never experienced being loved in this way. God, who knows you, who knows everything about you, loves you perfectly.

God tells us through the ancient prophet, Jeremiah, "I have loved you with an everlasting love; and I have drawn you unto Myself" (Jeremiah 31:3). So God's love for you is never going to change.

God loved us so much that He allowed for Jesus Christ to be crucified (an ancient form of execution) for our sins so that we might be made clean. We read in the Bible, "For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son that whosoever believes in Him should not perish, but have everlasting life" (John 3:16). When we turn to God and accept His forgiveness, then we begin to experience His love.

God tells us, "If we confess our sin He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and cleanse us from all unrighteousness" (1 John 1:9). Not only does God forgive our sins, but He forgets them and cleanses us.

What would it be like to be loved like this?

God continues to love us no matter what. Often, relationships end when something in them is altered, such as a damaging accident or the loss of financial position. But God's love is not based on our physical appearance or who or what we are.

What is love - intimacy. As you can see, God's view of love is totally different from what society tells us love is. Can you imagine a relationship with this kind of love? God simply tells us that His forgiveness and love is ours for the asking. It is His gift to us. But if we refuse the gift, we are the ones who cut ourselves off from finding true fulfillment, true intimacy and true purpose in life.

God's love provides the answer. All we have to do is respond in faith and commitment. The Bible says about Jesus: "That as many as received Him, to them He gave the right to become children of God, even to those that believe on His name" (John 1:12). God sent His only Son, Jesus, to die in our place. But that is not where the story ends. Three days later, Jesus rose from the dead. As God, He is alive today and wants to put His love in your heart. Once you accept Him, you will be amazed at what He can do in your life and in your relationships.

God's word tells us, "He who believes in the Son (Jesus Christ) has eternal life, but he who does not obey the Son shall not see life, but the wrath of God abides on him" (John 3:36). What God wants for us is to have life, not only for today, but for eternity. If we choose to reject Him, then we have chosen sin's consequence which is death and eternal separation from Him.

It is the reception of Jesus Christ, receiving Him into our lives and trusting in Him, that brings our lives into balance. Faith in God unleashes the forgiveness of God. No more hiding, and no more going our own way. He is right there with us. We have peace with Him.

After we place our faith and dependence on Him, He takes up residence within our lives and we have intimacy with Him. His forgiveness is there to cleanse us from the deepest sin, the deepest self-centeredness, the deepest problem or struggle we ever had or will have.

Throughout the Bible, God's attitude toward sex is very clear. God has reserved sex for marriage and marriage only. Not because He wants to make us miserable, but because He wants to protect our hearts. He wants to build a security base for us, so that when we enter into a marriage, its intimacy can be based upon the security of God's love and wisdom.

Intimacy arises out of a sense of security and being loved.

When we entrust ourselves to Jesus Christ, He gives us new love and new power day by day. This is where the intimacy we are looking for is satisfied. God gives us a love that will not quit, and will not stop with the growing years and the changing times. His love can bring two people together, with Him at the center of that union. In a dating relationship, as you grow together, not only spiritually, but socially, mentally and emotionally, you are able to have an honest, caring and intimate relationship which is fulfilling and exciting! And when the relationship comes along which culminates in marriage, the sexual union can only enhance the foundation that has been established.

What is love - intimacy. In any of our relationships, knowing that we are loved by God, frees us to love others more genuinely. We are emotionally less needy. The jealousy, bitterness, and dishonesty that characterizes so many relationships isn't our only option. We find that we don't have to give into that. Instead, we can put aside the games, be truthful, and even forgive offenses. Put simply, as we experience God's love, it motivates us toward a different way of relating to others.

Would you like to know God and let Him lead you in your life and your relationships?

You can receive Christ right now by faith through prayer. Prayer is talking with God. God knows your heart and is not so concerned with your words as He is with the attitude of your heart. The following is a suggested prayer: "Lord Jesus, I need You. Thank You for dying on the cross for my sins. I open the door of my life and receive You as my Savior and Lord. Thank You for forgiving my sins and giving me eternal life. Take control of my life and make me the kind of person You want me to be."

Does this prayer express the desire of your heart? If it does, pray this prayer right now. Placing your faith in Christ will result in His coming into your life as He has promised. This will begin a relationship with Him that will grow more intimate as you come to know Him better. And with Him at its center, your life will take on a whole new dimension - a spiritual one - bringing more harmony and fulfillment to all of your relationships.

Knowing and experiencing God's love for you, you will be able to love others with God's love, which leads to a deeper level of real intimacy.